[do action=”vfdictstart” title=”faith·fulness”/] [do action=”vfdictitem” contents=”strict or thorough in the performance of one’s duty.”/] [do action=”vfdictitem” contents=”being true to one’s word, promises, vows, etc.”/] [do action=”vfdictitem” contents=”to be steady in allegiance or affection; loyal; constant.”/] [do action=”vfdictend”/]
True to one word, promise, allegiance, or affection. To be loyal and constant.
Faithfulness means you stick to a commitment after the shine wears off… Faithfulness means you keep saying no a thousand times if you must to the temptation of cutting a corner and taking the easy way out… Faithfulness means you refuse to jump ship even when the waves of adversity are splashing over the decks of your marriage, your relationship with your children…your relationship with others. Faithfulness means you stay true to your relationships no matter what it costs you.
What is faithfulness?
- Faithfulness is a stick-to-itiveness that won’t be broken; faithfulness is the “superglue” of the heart that holds fast and won’t let go.
- Faithfulness means you follow through with your commitments regardless of what it costs.
- It’s the quality of being true, trustworthy and reliable in our dealings with others.
- It’s the characteristic of doing what we know we should even when it’s not easy.
- Faithfulness is remaining committed to doing right even when you feel like giving up.
- It’s the concept of living the truth of virtue in our lives.
- It’s committing ourselves to living a virtuous life and then letting the reality of that commitment permeate our lives on a daily basis.
Faithfulness was never meant to help us avoid uncomfortable situations, it was meant to escort us through them. It’s easy to be faithful through the good times, but it takes a strong character, moral conviction, and a lot of courage to be faithful when the bad times come, through the storms.
The storms in life and how they rock your ship may not be the way our ego would like to see things choreographed, however, you can rest assured that the lessons you learn during the storm are designed with the highest and best character building components for everyone involved. It’s up to each and every one of us to be faithful during the storms so that we can learn and grow through them.
There’s a wonderful story about a rose and a butterfly and how they would spend glorious days in the sun together until one day another butterfly flew by. The first butterfly became infatuated with the beautiful creature and took chase after her. The rose was devastated, so she decided to uproot herself and go in pursuit of her beloved butterfly. What happens to the rose? Of course she dies!
The story is such a great metaphor for how most of us conduct our lives chasing false butterflies in hope of filling our voids, even if they are only temporary. But, the moral of the story suggests that just like any growing thing that stays rooted, the ripening process happens over a longer period of time.
So be faithful, stay the course, weather the storm, when the clouds break you will be a stronger ship for it.[do action=”vfquote” quote=”Health is the greatest gift, contentment the greatest wealth, faithfulness the best relationship.” author=”Buddha”/] [do action=”vfquote” quote=”Young men want to be faithful, and are not; old men want to be faithless, and cannot.” author=”Oscar Wilde”/] [do action=”vfquote” quote=”Hold faithfulness and sincerity as first principles.” author=”Confucius”/]
Do not let loyalty and faithfulness forsake you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart.
A Faithful Friend
Several years ago Pepper Rodgers was in the middle of a terrible season as football coach at UCLA. It even got so bad that it upset his home life. He recalls, “My dog was my only friend. I told my wife that a man needs at least two friends – so she bought me another dog.”
Well, I don’t know if we need two friends, but I do know that we need at least one. Theocritus, a philosopher who lived in the third century BC, once wrote,
“Heaven’s eternal wisdom has decreed that man should ever stand in need of a faithful friend.”
But a faithful friend is hard to find these days. We live in a world where friendship and commitment no longer mean anything. There are many who say they are your friend, but who would betray you at a moment’s notice. And then there are many who befriend you, but only for the sake of gain.[do action=”vfquote” quote=”Faithfulness lives where love is stronger than instinct.” author=”Carvel Paul Carvel”/] [do action=”vfquote” quote=”For there is no faithfulness in their mouth; their inward part is very wickedness; their throat is an open sepulchre; they flatter with their tongue.” author=”Bible”/]
Mark Hatfield tells of touring Calcutta with Mother Teresa and visiting the so-called “House of Dying,” where sick children are cared for in their last days, and the dispensary, where the poor line up by the hundreds to receive medical attention. Watching Mother Teresa minister to these people, feeding and nursing those left by others to die, Hatfield was overwhelmed by the sheer magnitude of the suffering she and her co-workers face daily. “How can you bear the load without being crushed by it?” he asked. Mother Teresa replied, “My dear Senator, I am not called to be successful, I am called to be faithful.”
Consider the following characteristics of a faithful friend:
A true or faithful friend is one who…
1. Listens Intently.[do action=”vfquote” quote=”A friend is a person with whom I may think aloud.” author=”Ralph Waldo Emerson”/]
One who listens…
2. Loves Unconditionally[do action=”vfquote” quote=”A friend you have to buy won’t be worth what you pay for him.” author=”George D. Prentice”/]
3. Leads Faithfully
Remember as you lead: “It is better to keep a friend from falling than to help him up.”
A. Leads by Example .It has often been said that a leader is “someone
who knows the way, who shows the way, and who goes the way.
B. Leads by Encouragement . Rather than tearing you down, a friend
seeks to build you up. They focus not on the negative aspects of your life, but on the positive.
C. Leads by Engagement
There are those who pass like ships in the night. Who meet for a moment, then sail out of sight.
With never a backward glance of regret; folks we know briefly then quickly forget.
Then there are friends who sail together through quiet waters and stormy weather helping each other through joy and through strife.
And they are the kind who give meaning to life.[do action=”vfquote” quote=”The tears of faithfulness to your beliefs cleanse your spirit to envision the road ahead. Everything is possible for the person who believes.” author=”Adlin Sinclair”/]
The word faithful (Greek is Pistos) means to be reliable, true, trustworthy, dependable, devoted, unswerving, and constant.
We have a definite lack of faithfulness across our land today. In both the secular world and in the religious community we find a commonality of unfaithfulness. It is a tragic disgrace . We have all been given many opportunities to be faithful to family, friends, fellow workers, acquaintances, our church, and a world full of people to reach and teach. We have been given talents, abilities, skills, and spiritual gifts as well as time, resources, and positions in life to be used to serve one another. With all of these gifts, we are called to be faithful stewards.
Faithfulness is a basic requirement for the one who wishes to serve humanity. Faithfulness with where you are for where you will be. Faithfulness with what you have for what you will be given. Faithfulness with what you are for what you will become. Faithfulness with now for tomorrow. When life is hectic, be faithful. When things go wrong, be faithful. When you have problems, be faithful. When people do not understand you, be faithful. When you want to quit, be faithful. When you want to cry, cry and be faithful. When temptations come, be faithful. When vice tries to get you to doubt virtue, be faithful. When friends entice you, be faithful. When fears alarm you, be faithful. When the world tempts you, be faithful. When friends forsake you, be faithful. When all else fails, be faithful.[do action=”vfquote” quote=”Kindness and faithfulness keep a king safe, through kindness his throne is made secure.” author=”King Solomon”/] [do action=”vfquote” quote=”Nothing is more noble, nothing more venerable than fidelity. Faithfulness and truth are the most sacred excellences and endowments of the human mind.” author=”Marcus Tullius Cicero”/]
Seven Secrets To a Successful Marriage
1. Divorce is not an option.
Entering matrimony with the mindset that “divorce is not an option” is vital for the long-term success of marriage. This kind of mindset allows a couple to see solutions to marriage’s boiling points which would have otherwise been overlooked simply because one eye was too busy examining exit strategies.
Commitment is the virtue sorely missing from today’s marriages. That said, there are three deal breakers that very few couples can work through. These are known as the three A’s — addiction, adultery, and abuse. A marriage overwhelmed by any of these three issues is unhealthy, and if you find yourself overwhelmed with any of the three A’s, take care of your safety first, and the marriage second. The old saying holds true: where your attention goes, energy flows. So the next time you’re facing a mountain in your marriage, focus on the next foothold and soon enough you’ll find yourself over the top.
2. There’s no such thing as a perfect marriage, only perfect moments.
It takes a lot of hard work to create a great marriage. Most people just say, “Hey, I’ll just find my soul mate and things will naturally fall into place after that … we’ll live happily ever after.” Being soul mates is not so easy. Marriage is a bed of roses, thorns and all.
Any time two individuals live together there are bound to be annoying, irritating, and frustrating experiences. But whether it’s the toothpaste cap, toilet seat, snoring, or the last-minute pull-the-car-over-to-check-the-score-of-the-game-at-the-local-bar move, one thing is for sure: the best marriages are served with an extra helping of acceptance for one another’s oddities. That’s the beauty of marriage, all of the wonderful differences. Expect non-perfection; practice patience and give the acceptance you want in return. There’s no doubt that this is hard work, but judging by the end result, it’s well worth the effort.
3. Unpack the Suitcase
Never leave things unsaid. Don’t be afraid to say what’s on your mind. Put on the boxing gloves and do a little verbal sparring when the occasion calls for it. Unexpressed frustrations in a marriage can pile up and weigh you down like an overloaded suitcase. These accumulated frustrations can quickly turn into resentments. Holding resentment is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. Resentment will eat away at your marriage. Unpack the “suitcases” by opening the communication lines as frequently as possible.
But guess what? If you haven’t created and nurtured an environment where open, honest communication is welcomed and treated with diligent respect, then you can wave these crucial “clearing the air” moments goodbye.
4. Never Stop Dating
People say that it’s the quality of time, not the quantity of time that matters. That’s only partially true, fact is that it’s the quantity of quality time spent together that leads to a wonderful marriage. Whether it’s a vacation in the Bahamas, or simply spending a night at a local motel once a week, keeping the romance burning is easy: all you have to do is keep stoking the fire.
5. You Have Got to Give.
Couples with long lasting marriages have a high degree of selflessness. Most people think marriage is 50/50. It’s not. It’s 60/40. You give 60. You take 40. And that goes for both of you.
It’s always super-apparent in the best of the best marriages that both spouses have followed this philosophy. Though it’s not a difficult concept to understand — putting one another first —it’s surely a bit more difficult to practice consistently, especially with the prevailing “Me first (and second)” mentality today. Our younger generations generally have a me-me-me mentality. The great part is that the me gets everything it needs when it puts the we first.
6. Remember That Life is Short
Life is short, so make sure to enjoy as much as you can. The death rate for human beings hovers right around 100 percent, and is expected to remain there for … well, forever. Consider this: if the average life span is 77 years, then that means we only have 77 summers … 77 winters … 77 Christmas mornings … 77 New Years, and that’s it. Couples with the best marriages know this all too well. It’s easy to get caught in the day-to-day craziness of life and, in the process, take our spouses for granted. Cherish every one of those 77 Christmas mornings. This adventure we call life goes by in the blink of an eye; relish your loved ones presence while he or she is still here.
7. The Discipline of Respect
You can have respect without love, but you can’t have love without respect. The number one secret to a thriving, everlasting marriage is respect. It is the catalyst for all things beautiful in a relationship: trust, connection, authenticity, and love. Unfortunately, respect — in all its seeming simplicity — is too easily overlooked. Spouses can say some pretty ugly things to each other when they are irritated. Remember, you are the master of your words until they are spoken, then they become the master of you … so choose your words carefully.[do action=”vfquote” quote=”The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.” author=”Bible quote”/] [do action=”vfquote” quote=”I do not pray for success, I ask for faithfulness.” author=”Mother Teresa of Calcutta”/]
One stormy night an elderly couple entered the lobby of a small hotel and asked for a room. The clerk said they were filled, as were all the hotels in town. “But I can’t send a fine couple like you out in the rain,” he said. “Would you be willing to sleep in my room?” The couple hesitated, but the clerk insisted. The next morning when the man paid his bill, he said, “You’re the kind of man who should be managing the best hotel in the United States. Someday I’ll build you one.” The clerk smiled politely. A few years later the clerk received a letter from the elderly man, recalling that stormy night and asking him to come to New York. A round-trip ticket was enclosed. When the clerk arrived, his host took him to the corner of 5th Avenue and 34th Street, where stood a magnificent new building. “That,” explained the man, “is the hotel I have built for you to manage.” The man was William Waldorf Astor, and the hotel was the original Waldorf-Astoria. The young clerk, George C. Boldt, became its first manager.
Men Are Only as Faithful as Their Opportunities
By Ken Solin.
I cringe when I hear this old chestnut because it paints men with way too broad a brush. It demeans us and suggests that we’re shallow and without souls. Unfaithful men keep making the news because they’re famous and everyone likes to watch a train wreck. But that rubbernecking shouldn’t ever be confused with admiration or desire.
In contrast, there are few stories about men who don’t cheat on their wives and work hard on their marriages. Perhaps stories about faithful men lack the salacious pizzazz the media is so addicted to. After working with men for over twenty years, though, I know that the title of this article is dead wrong. Opportunity–or its lack–is not the determining factor in fidelity for most men.
Men are faithful to their wives because they appreciate the richness of being in loving, supportive relationships. Although I have a tight-knit group of men friends who’ve always been there for me and have taught me most of what I know about relationships, my wife is my absolute best friend when I need advice about something other than our marriage. When I ask her opinion about a problem I’m struggling with, she tells me what she believes might work best for me. She doesn’t pause to consider whether or not her advice works for her too–and sometimes it doesn’t. I do the same for her, and our willingness to act selflessly with each other is a strong foundation for trust in our marriage.
We also offer each other unconditional support–a shoulder and compassionate ear in crises, cheer-leading for one anothers hopes and dreams, and sharing disappointments. That dependability has helped build and deepen the intimacy between us.
Intimacy requires the courage to commit to a woman without fear. But when that fear comes up for me, I remember how I felt before I found a woman I could commit to. I remember how empty dating and casual sex felt over time. What I also remember is that the only married men who envied my single-guy sexual exploits were in marriages devoid of intimacy or trust. After I married, I found listening to their extramarital stories sad and boring. Their character as men suddenly seemed a mile wide and an inch deep.
Of course, marriage takes work–hard work–but every relationship in my life that I hold dear involves some amount of work. My relationship with my son takes energy at times, but I never think twice about making the effort because I adore him. My relationships with my friends sometimes falter, and when that occurs, we talk about the problem and work through it because we place the highest value on our friendship. I feel similarly about making the effort with my wife.
I don’t know any man who wouldn’t prefer to be in a loving, satisfying relationship, and that includes the men I know who cheat on their wives. Most married men appreciate the value of shared intimacy, and lying and cheating just don’t figure into that. Being a faithful partner has absolutely nothing to do with opportunity. It’s all about character, integrity, hard work–and acting like a man.[do action=”vfquote” quote=”Money may be the husk of many things, but not the kernel. It brings you food, but not appetite; medicine, but not health; acquaintances, but not friends; servants, but not faithfulness; days of joy, but not peace and happiness.” author=”Henrik Ibsen”/]
Faith, Faithfulness and Marriage
Infidelity is rampant in nature. Birds, mammals, amphibians and even fish all cheat if the conditions are right, forcing mates to remain perpetually vigilant. People are no different. 50% of all marriages in the western hemisphere end in divorce, 25% of the second marriages end the same way. Although cheats are publicly condemned, or in some cases impeached, infidelity is common and public disapproval does little to dissuade the sinner. The disapproval of one’s Creator, however, is a different matter, and a new study suggests that prayer can indeed guide people away from adulterous behavior.
Frank Fincham at Florida State University and his colleagues knew from looking at past studies that couples who attend religious services are more likely to be satisfied with their marriages and less likely to be unfaithful than those who do not, but they did not understand why. Speculating that the act of praying might itself cause romantic relationships to become more resilient, the team set up an experiment to explore prayer and fidelity.
The researchers recruited 83 undergraduates who reported both being in a romantic relationship and praying at least occasionally. Participants were given a survey that is used by psychologists to measure levels of infidelity on a nine-point scale (with nine being highly unfaithful). The survey instructed them to think of the person that they were most attracted to besides their partner and then asked questions like how aroused they felt in that person’s presence, how emotionally intimate they had been with him or her, and how physically intimate they had been. In a second survey, participants were asked to state how strongly they agreed with statements like “my relationship with my partner is holy and sacred”, by rating levels of agreement on a nine-point scale (with nine indicating very strong agreement).
Following the survey, the participants were randomly assigned to one of four daily activities: praying for the well-being of their partner, engaging in undirected prayer, thinking about positive aspects of their partner or reflecting upon their day. Participants did as they were asked for four weeks, and kept written logs of what they were praying (or thinking). At the end of this period, the team again measured infidelity and how sacred the participants felt their romantic relationships were.
Dr. Fincham and his colleagues report in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology that although all participants had similar infidelity ratings, averaging 3.5, to start with, at the end those ratings varied considerably between the four groups. People who had prayed for their partners averaged 2.4, significantly lower than their initial scores, whereas those who thought positively about their partners or considered their day both showed ratings of 3.9—significantly higher.
What struck the team as particularly intriguing was that participants asked to engage in general prayer showed an average rating of 3.2, a value much lower than they were seeing for the other two control conditions. This hinted to them that the mere act of praying increased fidelity. In fact, things were more complicated than that. Four participants in the “undirected prayer” group had, without prompting, decided to pray for their romantic partners on a daily basis. When Dr. Fincham and his colleagues took this into account, and shifted the scores of these specific participants to the “prayer for partner” group, they found that those who prayed for partners showed an average infidelity score of 2.5, whereas those who engaged in undirected prayer had an average infidelity score of 3.6. Undirected prayer, then, did not seem to make much difference.
Scores reflecting participants’ views of how sacred their romantic relationships were changed during the four-week period as well. Values at the start of the study were much the same among all participants, averaging 3.2. However, by the end of the study, those who had prayed for their partners showed stronger beliefs that their relationships were sacred than those who had just had positive thoughts about their partners, with average scores of 3.7 and 2.8 respectively. Dr. Fincham suspects that the act of praying about romantic partners leads people to view their relationship as something sacred and not to be damaged. This, he argues, is the force that is reducing infidelity in the study.
Yet even with these findings, the team knew that a crucial limitation of their work was that all of the data were self-reported by the people doing the praying. To know for certain whether praying for romantic partners strengthened relationships, they needed to go further. In a follow-up experiment they therefore asked 23 undergraduates who had romantic partners, and who stated that they prayed at least occasionally, either to pray for their partners daily for four weeks or to think positive thoughts about them every day for the same amount of time.
At the end of this period, participants came to the laboratory with their partners and, while being videotaped together, were asked to describe the short or long-term future of their relationship. The videos were then presented to five trained research assistants who were unaware of the goals of the study. They were asked to rate the level of commitment that the participants demonstrated towards their partners during the interaction on a scale of one to seven (with one indicating a participant who was “not at all committed” and seven indicating “extreme commitment”).
The team found that those who prayed earned scores that were significantly higher, averaging 5.3, than those who had thought positively, who averaged 4.6. This suggested that what participants had reported about themselves in the first study accurately reflected how prayer affected their romances.
Thus, whereas other animal species must resort to constant vigilance to reduce the risks of infidelity, humans (or at least those who have a faith) have an extra tool in the box: religion. Indeed, people worried about potentially cheating spouses may find praying together a better safeguard against adultery than checking mobile-phone bills and scrutinizing credit-card receipts—and one that builds trust, rather than destroying it.[do action=”vfquote” quote=”If I were to select a watchword that I would have every young man write above his door and on his heart, it would be that good word ”Faithfulness.” I know of no better. The man who meets every obligation to the family, to society, to the State, to his country, and his God, to the very best measure of his strength and ability, cannot fail of that assurance and quietness that comes of a good conscience, and will seldom fail of the approval of his fellow-men, and will never fail of the reward which is promised to his faithfulness.” author=”Benjamin Harrison”/] [do action=”vfquote” quote=”Health is the greatest gift, contentment the greatest wealth, faithfulness the best relationship.” author=”Buddha”/] [do action=”vfquote” quote=”Nothing is more noble, nothing more venerable than fidelity. Faithfulness and truth are the most sacred excellences and endowments of the human mind.” author=”Marcus Tullius Cicero”/] [do action=”vfquote” quote=”Hold faithfulness and sincerity as first principles” author=”Confucius”/]
Field Guide to the Faithfull Fan or How Superfandom can become intense enough to disrupt normal life and relationships.
By Stephanie Booth
Latin Name: Devotium Extremis
Notable Characteristics: Suffers periodic laryngitis from singing, screaming, and/or arguing with referee, movie usher, or security guard. Named Twitter handle, hamster, and/or child after object of obsession.
Songs & Calls: “Wooooooooo!” “Man, I’m your biggest fan!” “Will you sign this?”
We’ve all experienced the joys of fandom—a feeling of oneness with fellow concertgoers, or the excitement of waiting in the dark for an anticipated film. But fandom can become so intense that it compromises meaningful pursuits.
“Engagement in a devotee world isn’t inherently harmful,” says Jeff Rudski, a psychologist at Muhlenberg College—who has studied Harry Potter addiction. “But for some, the object of devotion begins to substitute for other rewards in life.”
We’re built to become deeply connected to outside entities. The brain’s mesolimbic system functions as a reinforcement circuit between the opiodergic system (which controls liking) and the dopaminergic system (which governs wanting)—so when we like a donut, we want it again next time it’s available. These mechanics evolved to steer us toward things like food, but other factors can trip the circuit. “For fanatics, liking may trigger an unusually high degree of wanting,” Rudski explains.
Superfandom may also be a coping strategy. “Fanatics may be driven to escape an issue that’s difficult to face,” says Samantha Smithstein, cofounder of the Pathways Institute for Impulse Control in San Francisco. Others may use their obsession to connect with others. Still, most of us are fans because it’s just, well, fun.
The Sports Nut (Devotium Facepaintus)
You’ve seen him in high-definition: the shirtless, body-painted guy screaming himself hoarse in the bleachers. His focus on the field is so intense, you’d think he was one of the players—and in his mind, he really is, says Ed Hirt, professor of psychological sciences at Indiana University.
Watching someone perform an action triggers mirror neurons, making the viewer feel, to an extent, like he is the doer. The greater the observer’s personal draw to the action, the more intensely he feels that he’s the one hitting a home run, Hirt says.
The end result is “a vicarious sense of success,” according to Hirt: For a moment, a fan feels athletically gifted, unstoppable, and adored. A University of Utah study showed that during tournaments, die-hard fans experience the same hormonal surges athletes do. “They even become more optimistic about their own life when ‘their’ team wins and gloomy about their personal future when ‘their’ team loses,” says Hirt.
Sports fandom also taps into a primordial human need to belong to a community. Devotees tailgate in the parking lot before games, swap stats, and trade the occasional chest bump or hug. Sports fans who faithfully follow a local team experience increased social connections, which are key to fostering well-being, notes the North American Journal of Psychology. And the crazier and more “out there” the fan, says Hirt, the higher his or her status climbs within the group.
The Music Lover (Devotium Groupis)
Cranking up a favorite song is one thing; seeing a pop group 44 times is another. Actively listening to a beloved tune stokes the brain’s pleasure center and feels extremely arousing. “It’s like a temporary roller coaster of emotions, with no severe consequences,” says Valorie Salimpoor, a researcher at McGill University. “The intensity of the feelings the music evokes is highly reinforcing.” That may explain why some die-hard fans still aren’t weary of Skulls & Roses.
For some, concerts can extend that “high” even further. Live shows often incorporate light displays, choreography, or a good old-fashioned mosh pit. If an aspect resonates with fans, “the disparate sensory elements contribute to a much stronger rush than whatever they get from an iPod,” says Donald Lodge, a music researcher at the University of North Carolina at Greensboro.
In fact, participants in a Swedish study who described their most powerful musical experiences (many of which took place at concerts) relayed an almost religious experience—pounding heart, tears, no adequate words to explain their emotions.
Nostalgia lends even more meaning to favorite songs, since music seals in memories from the era in which one first heard it. Fans who center their lives around a particular band probably got hooked during their formative years, Lodge says. “That’s when you struggled most with identity, and the music you related to at the time helped answer the question, ‘Who am I?'”
The Movie Nerd (Devotium Popcornicus)
There are those who enjoyed Avatar and then there those who joined multiple online fan forums, viewed the movie 23 times, and still found time to post fan fiction online.
Watching a film is a highly stimulating experience, says Peter Stromberg, a professor of anthropology at the University of Tulsa and author of Caught in Play: How Entertainment Works on You. “It’s a form of pretending, where you engage the fiction by putting yourself in the story and suspending your knowledge of the outside world.”
So although someone who’s seen The Empire Strikes Back myriad times knows that Luke won’t truly succumb to Darth Vader, he still experiences nail-biting concern when the two duel onscreen. “Those who become highly engaged in a movie are able to block from consciousness their knowledge of how it will turn out,” Stromberg says. “That’s why, time after time, they find the same sort of emotional satisfaction they found in seeing the movie the first time.”
In fact, to die-hard movie fans, remaining cocooned in that celluloid world may seem more attractive than being fully engaged in their real lives. Stromberg contends that participating in an online fan community or dressing up as a favorite character and heading to a convention grants an opportunity to “sustain involvement in the movie and the emotional relief it provides.”[do action=”vfquote” quote=”Do not let loyalty and faithfulness forsake you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart” author=”Bible quotes”/] [do action=”vfquote” quote=”The sea – this truth must be confessed – has no generosity. No display of manly qualities – courage, hardihood, endurance, faithfulness – has ever been known to touch its irresponsible consciousness of power.” author=”Joseph Conrad”/] [do action=”vfquote” quote=”By faithfulness we are collected and wound up into unity within ourselves, whereas we had been scattered abroad in multiplicity.” author=”Saint Augustine”/] [do action=”vfquote” quote=”These towns– We relate to you some of their stories, and certainly their apostles came to them with clear arguments, but they would not believe in what they rejected at first; thus does Allah set a seal over the hearts of the unbelievers / And We did not find in most of them any (faithfulness to) covenant, and We found most of them to be certainly transgressors.” author=”Quran”/]
By J. Dobson & Gary Bauer
One of the most tragic events during the Reagan Presidency was the Sunday morning terrorist bombing of the Marine barracks in Beirut, in which hundreds of Americans were killed or wounded as they slept. Many of us can still recall the terrible scenes as the dazed survivors worked to dig out their trapped brothers from beneath the rubble.
A few days after the tragedy, I recall coming across an extraordinary story. Marine Corps Commandant Paul X Kelly, visited some of the wounded survivors then in a Frankfurt, Germany, hospital. Among them was Corporal Jeffrey Lee Nashton, severely wounded in the incident. Nashton had so many tubes running in and out of his body that a witness said he looked more like a machine than a man; yet he survived. As Kelly neared him, Nashton, struggling to move and racked with pain, motioned for a piece of paper and a pen. He wrote a brief note and passed it back to the Commandant. On the slip of paper were but two words — “Semper Fi” the Latin motto of the Marines meaning “forever faithful.” With those two simple words Nashton spoke for the millions of Americans who have sacrificed body and limb and their lives for their country — those who have remained faithful.[do action=”vfquote” quote=”Kindness and faithfulness keep a king safe, through kindness his throne is made secure.” author=”King Solomon”/] [do action=”vfquote” quote=”Comics offer tremendous resources to all writers and artists: faithfulness, control, a chance to be heard far and wide without fear of compromise.” author=”Scott McCloud”/]
Why Do Men Cheat on their Beautiful Wives?
By E harmony Staff
Thanks to Tiger Woods’ online statement, it is now clear that he has indeed been unfaithful to his wife of 5 years, Elin Nordegren. He joins the infamous list of famous men who have cheated on partners that are, by outward standards, quite beautiful — Kobe Bryant, Hugh Grant, Eric Benet (Halle Berry’s former hubby) — with women that are, well, of questionable repute.
Most men seem to think that if they can find a woman who is attractive enough, they will never stray. This is one of the many drivers of the male animal’s search for a very attractive mate, but clearly that idea has some problems.
The fact that famous and successful man after man is willing to burn down his marriage and career for the pleasures of an affair raises a variety of interesting questions about human behavior. Why do they do it, when they seem to have everything at home?
Here are some theories:
- A powerful man who has the opportunity is a good candidate to cheat. Their wife’s attractiveness has nothing to do with it.
- This just proves that trying to find the most attractive mate is a silly exercise. Once the marriage gets going, how attractive the people are has no bearing on how happy, sad, honest or faithful they will be.
- No woman can be beautiful enough to keep a man faithful. There has to be something else at play to have him remain fully committed to the relationship.
- As Chris Rock said, “Men are as faithful as their options. If they have no opportunity to cheat, they won’t.”
Discussing the “quality” of a human being is odd. We all know, for instance, that there is a difference in the grace and bearing of Nelson Mandela as opposed to Steve O. from the TV show Jackass. It also feels judgmental and strange to write about it. Clearly this isn’t some kind of endemic quality – Steve O. could begin to act like Nelson Mandela tomorrow if he wanted to, and vice versa. But the way each man chooses to act, dress and conduct his affairs allows us to draw some broad generalizations about the level of class he has.
When you compare the “quality” of the wives with that of the mistresses there is a noticeable gap. Is this because…
A. The women who are willing to cheat with a married man are often less classy?
B. Men want wives that are upstanding and wholesome, but mistresses that are down and dirty?
C. The best place to find a mistress is in a place where less classy women hang out?
In the end, Tiger joins the club of shame — disappointing millions of fans, risking his family and likely losing tens of millions of dollars in endorsements. It’s worth wondering how a man who is hounded by the paparazzi would ever think that he could keep an extra-marital affair secret. Doesn’t he know the day it begins that it’s going to end up on “Extra” and in every printed tabloid in the country?[do action=”vfquote” quote=”The tears of faithfulness to your beliefs cleanse your spirit to envision the road ahead. Everything is possible for the person who believes.” author=”Adlin Sinclair”/]