To show empathy is to identify with another’s feelings. It is to emotionally put yourself in the place of another. The ability to empathize is directly dependent on your ability to feel your own feelings and identify them. If you have never felt a certain feeling, it will be hard for you to understand how […]

Putting Virtue First in Our Schools

The main problem facing our schools today is a lack of virtue. All of our other problems stem from it. Our educator’s attempts at school reform will fail unless character education and teaching the virtues is put at the top of the agenda. If students don’t learn about the virtues of self-discipline and respect for […]

Small Acts of Love

When it comes to living lives of virtue, we often find ourselves being able to “talk the talk”, but we seem to have a hard time “walking the walk”. I am just as guilty as anyone in this regard. We wholeheartedly commit ourselves to loving and serving fellow man, and then either deliberately or by […]


What is it that you love the most? Do you pin your hopes, dreams, and love on winning football games, a league title, a playoff appearance, or a state title? Do you measure your success as a man by your job status, salary, bank account balance, home value, retirement account, boat, recreational vehicle, vacation home, […]

Reverence for Humanity in our Players

It has always bothered me when coaches talk about their players and use the words “My kids” and “My guys”. Again, they are not YOUR KIDS. They belong to their parents and their creator. I think the “My” tag is symbolic of a basic lack of respect for our players humanity and our respectful relationship […]

Turn Away from Vice

If we are going to live a virtuous life, we must turn away from vice every time it try’s to peck at our soul. We must also break the chains that vice has on our hearts and extinguish the fires of temptation that are sparked in our souls. To do this, quite often we must […]


They say that the eyes are the window to the soul. When our players come off the field following an opponent’s touchdown in a lopsided contest that we are losing, I always look into our player’s eyes. I am looking for hope. Sometimes I see fear and hopelessness. I bet a lot of people look […]


Hope is engrained in our very nature. Hope is what enables us to endure the agonies and ecstasies of our lifelong pursuit of joy. When hope lessons, our souls suffer. We can help those around us who are suffering from a lack of hope in their lives. Here are some suggestions: Help them focus on […]

Walk by faith, not by sight

Stand up, close your eyes and take ten steps. Can you imagine what it is like to be blind? After just a couple steps you will probably be disoriented. It is so unnatural for us to walk without looking where we are going, yet this is precisely how we must live in order to obtain […]

ME or WE

“ME” or “WE”? I know you have heard the old cliché that football emulates life, but it really is true and I think this gets to the heart of why many of us coaches value the sport so highly. Just like life, football is about death and resurrection. Football is about death to self and […]